Posts Tagged ‘mindfulness’

Avoidance Behavior maintains your anxiety

Written by Lise Kryger. Posted in Anxiety, Blog

There is a lot that contributes to your anxiety. Do you know that your behavior can help maintaining the anxiety?

AvoidanceWhat is avoidance behavior?

When I experienced my first anxiety attack, back in my teenage year, I was not aware that it was an anxiety attack. I thought it was me who could no longer keep a straight face and had lost all control of myself. I felt everyone was looking at me because I showed weakness and thought they had never seen anything like it. I was ashamed and did most of all want to escape. If it was possible I would have wiped my experience free from everyone’s memorys. The experience in itself was physically but also mixed with an intense sense of social shame.

Since I could not erase the memory and history from either them or myself, I could not forget the incident. The thought of ​​the experience could get my heart racing and my body to shake and my thoughts were in constantly focus on of how I could avoid losing control again. At that time I did not know strategies for how I could deal with the anxiety. Therefore my immediate reaction was to control myself even more. That is, suppress my feelings, my sadness, anger and irritation, hide my insecurity and shyness. The natural reaction was to tighten up even more in my hands, arms, legs and stomach. Even my smile muscles were tense.

My reaction was natural because it was the only way I knew how I could cope with the feelings. But it did not work particularly well. In fact, I put myself under further pressure and led therefore to that the anxiety quickly turned back.

Telephone anxiety

Written by Lise Kryger. Posted in Anxiety, Blog

Would you go through snow and ice just to avoid having to call and make an appointment?  Is your telephonesessions ultra-short? Do you know that it is the fear of speaking in phones? And how it can be easier to talk on the phone?

What are the symptoms of anxiety of speaking on the phone?Telephone anxiety

  • Heart beat
  • Shortness of breath
  • Sweaty palms
  • Speech impediment
  • Shaky voice
  • Butterflies in the stomach
  • Thoughts that are constantly circling about ending the call
  • Avoiding phone calls

What causes the anxiety of speaking on the phone?

The reasons are individual but arises most often in a situation you have experienced as very unpleasant. Perhaps you have experienced being called by someone who has asked you a question you do not not feel comfortable saying no to because the person was waiting at the other end of the phone.

Perhaps you have experienced being put in a dilemma over the phone, and answered even though you had not found the answer yet. It may also be that the lack of body language and eye contact gives you an unresty feeling and easily come to misunderstand the person you are talking to. Or perhaps a form of performance anxiety occurs because you are “on” as soon as the receiver picks up the phone.

The reasons could be many – but there is always the opportunity to feel better about it if you have the will and practice.

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