It is not only entirely bad to be stressed! But it requires that you change your attitude to the concept to be stressed!
Kelly McGonial is a psychologist at Stanford University. Through books, articles, courses and workshops, she works to help us to understand and implement the latest scientific evidence in psychology, neuroscience and medicine.
She is researching a new book “The upside of stress”, which looks at both why stress is good for us and what makes us good at stress. In her words: “The old understanding of stress as a unhelpful relic of our animal instincts is being replaced by the understanding that stress actually makes us socially smart – it’s what allows us to be fully human”.
In her talk she speaks about stress and the way we choose to deal with stress. When you choose to look at long-term stress as being something your body makes against you will side effects and damage to the body only worsen.
She says that the stress hormone oxicytin – also called “the cuddle hormone” does something to you under stress such as developing your empathy, and your desire to surround yourself with people who will support you. The oxicytin also makes that you pay attention to when someone you care about need your help and support. In other words, when you get stressed, you will simultaneously also more gets social.
Her message is that when you know this and choose to recognize it when you’re stressed, you’ll send yourself a signal that you can have confidence in yourself and know that you are well able to cope life when it’s tough and you are challenged – not to mention that you no longer need to do it alone.
Have you noticed your “cuddle hormone”?
Kelly McGonigal: How to make stress your friend (14:29 min.)